About me

I’m a woman in a man’s world. A black woman in a white man’s world. A Christian in a secular world. And facially different in a beauty conscious world.

I was born with a pronounced facial disfigurement and spent a lot of time in hospital having corrective surgery. At the age of four I was gifted an artificial eye and dark glasses.

Why? Not to help me see - I’m blind in my left eye - but to help me blend in, to look more "normal".. To hide what I really look like. I call that the beginning of my life behind the mask.

It’s not like anyone could have known back then but I was being taught a powerful lesson through that experience; that if something is wrong with you, or broken, or different or flawed, you hide it, put it away, keep it out of sight.

That lesson followed me throughout my life until my forties when, through a random set of events, I found myself at rock bottom, with my hands in the air, crying out to God to tell me what the heck was going on with me.

"I was in pain. I felt personally stuck and broken. Professionally I felt like I was punching way below my weight, even though you couldn’t tell by looking at me or by reading my impressive resume."

That’s when God and I had a conversation that changed my life. He told me that to grow through this experience I needed take off my masks and learn to SHOW UP for real.

At that point I didn’t even know I wore masks. At that point I thought we were only talking about taking off the artificial eye and dark glasses. I was petrified!

I had to face that I had no idea who I was behind the mask or how to let people see the real me.

That’s when God and I had a conversation that changed my life. He told me that to grow through this experience I needed take off my masks and learn to SHOW UP for real.

At that point I didn’t even know I wore masks. At that point I thought we were only talking about taking off the artificial eye and dark glasses. I was petrified!

I had to face that I had no idea who I was behind the mask or how to let people see the real me.

That conversation was the doorway that led to an amazing path of self discovery, evolution and becoming that I would follow, and am still following, now.

I found that "masking" wasn’t just about what was happening on my face. I'd been masking and hiding on so many different levels.

As I began to share publicly some of what I was going through and learning, suddenly I was receiving messages from women; brilliant women, smart and savvy senior women who told how much they understood my story and how it resonated personally.

I found that "masking" wasn’t just about what was happening on my face. I'd been masking and hiding on so many different levels.

As I began to share publicly some of what I was learning and going through, suddenly I was receiving messages from women; brilliant women, smart and savvy senior women who told me how much they understood my story and how it resonated personally.

I realised you don’t need to have a disfigured face to wear a mask.

I heard the stories from women all around the world who resonated with the need to hide; women who were no longer even sure what it meant to show up for real and women who had become so detached from who they really are after years of wearing multiple masks to BE ‘professional and’ everything that everyone else expected them to be.

Over the years I have come to see how masking and hiding those parts of ourselves to fit in and be acceptable in senior leadership is not just energetically expensive and draining personally, it saps our power to lead and influence.

I heard stories from women all around the world who resonated with the need to hide; women who were no longer even sure what it meant to show up for real and women who had become so detached from who they really are after years of wearing multiple masks to BE ‘professional' and everything that everyone else expected them to be.

Over the years I have come to see how masking and hiding those parts of ourselves, to fit in and be acceptable in senior leadership, is not just energetically expensive and draining personally, it saps our power to lead and influence.

" Woman of influence, I have given my life to helping us understand that the key to success is to venture behind our masks."

To reconnect with the you behind the mask and prepare her to be seen, heard and taken seriously in the rooms where public service decisions are being made, policies are being discussed and culture is being shaped.

I’m offering leadership development like you’ve never known it!

 

It's unsual and unusually challenging. It’s advanced. It’s scary and risky work but this is what needs to happen if we, as women, are going to rise above the challenges of senior leadership, quit hiding and backing away from the work that we are being called to take on, and truly show up as the initiators, innovators and influencers of the kind of change that really matters in our ailing world.

"It’s time for you to be a catalyst for important change"

I know this work isn’t for everyone. I know for many it won’t make a drop of sense and I’m okay with that.

But if you are reading this and you know I’m talking to you, if you are reading this and you are experiencing a profound and deep knowing that it’s time for you to be more, that’s your sign that we go together.

It’s time for you to be a catalyst for important change. It’s time to evolve as an influential change-maker.

Let me accompany you and lead you behind those masks you have been wearing to hide the you that can do this work. I know the way!

Here’s what you need to know before signing up to work with me:

When you work with me you get all of me in your corner.

I AM . . .

The Womanologist

So much of what’s available in conventional leadership development support is focussed on the job of the leader - the “doing” of leadership - and that’s important, but my thing is the LEADER - The WOMAN behind the title.

I have invested time, money and effort into understanding the power and importance and meaning of being a woman in leadership. I believe it is my understanding and passion for womanity that puts me into a league of my own when it comes to supporting you and your development in leadership and life.

At my core I’m a healer to women. I am wholeheartedly committed to facilitating the healing and restoration of WOMANITY.

Deep within me I know that after centuries of oppression, it is time for womanity to be revived, re-powered restored and renewed so she can take her place alongside men in the shaping of nations through senior leadership.

Everything I have been through in my life, personally and professionally; everything I have experienced, studied and learned has equipped me for this. I do not take you lightly.


The Strategic Ally

I’m in your corner. I’m on your team. I think it’s all the years I spent working as a midwife that has really equipped me to be in a league of my own when it comes to creating extraordinary, facilitative and deep connection with you as you go. Challenging, perhaps painful and stretching, processes.

I have the capacity to stand the heat and be with you as you go deeper with yourself. It's something my private clients feedback consistently and my promise to you, I’ll be an unparalleled partner along-side you as you navigate the ups and downs of your leader development journey. You don’t need to figure things out by yourself again.


The Practical Theologist

What’s your favourite book? Mine is the Bible. I’ve found it to be the most exhaustive and rich leadership and life manual and I adore being able to present the principles that I’m learning from it to my audience, especially those that might never otherwise get an opportunity to benefit from the wisdom the bible contains.

So when I show up, expect a bible story or two - I promise you’ll be blessed - and I won’t insist that you come to church with me on Sunday. - That’s another promise so relax!

Twelve things you should know about me . . .

  • I’m rubbish at small talk. Truth-sayer and straight talk is much more my style. I’ve been told I’m not for the faint-hearted - and I’m good with that (now!)
  • I’m a family girl. My grandma is still alive so we are FIVE generations strong and I know my life and work are richer for it! I love being mummy to Bianca and grandma to Elsa- Grace. They have taught me so much about myself and about raising Queens.

  • I’m a five-star girl, I like elegant opulence. One of my favourite things to do is to find places of beauty to hang out in and work from. The people I work with tend to be like this too 😉

  • One of my superpowers is walking in high-heels, most of the time I’m more comfortable walking in heels than i am in flats. My sister says it’s because I’m a HEALER. She always tells me I’ve got healing hands and hugs.

  • My favourite tipple is a good red wine in a good quality glass, I also love a good gin and tonic from time to time.

  • I’ve always known I was born to change the world in some way.

  • I am an expert in the area of Authentic Feminine Leadership. This is what I study, teach and help my clients to master. Authenticity is my NUMBER ONE value and ability. Radical Authenticity is my personal ongoing mission, and I think it is the key to exceptional senior leadership.

  • I am an expert Deep Coach. That means I am able to lead my clients beneath the surface of their experience to the place where the real answers and insights lie.

  • I am an expert at providing exceptional support for women engaging with challenging processes. After many years of being a midwife I realise that being alongside women who are conceiving, carrying, nurturing and growing new ideas and insights is my place in the world. I can develop rapport and deep connection with women and can roll with their flow whilst staying true to the partnership and desired outcomes.

  • If we decide to work together, I’m all in and a whatever-it-takes kinda girl! I don’t believe in backing out. That’s why we take our time in the beginning to make sure we are right for each other.

  • I’m getting more and more fussy about who I work with. I only want to work with clients who inspire me.

  • I’m not a guru. I still mess up (sometimes daily) but I promise to practice what I preach and I’m continuously working at being a better woman, leader and change-maker.